Falling in Love Systematically (Repost)

“The longest journey you will ever take is the 18 inches from your head to your heart.”

This status message inspired me to write something like this, so in love, we really have to take that journey. And that journey is what I would be talking about.

So at most, meron dapat tayong idea on how we could make it a point so that we can determine na in love na nga ba tayo. Which is very tricky. You can be in that certain point na akala mo love na, pero chances are infatuated ka lang. Para ka lang kumain ng choco hot fudge, sa una, sobrang tamis at sarap, pero kung sa lasa ka lang naka-fix, malamang-lamang magsawa ka rin dun. At ano ba naman kung magsawa ka sa choco hot fudge, di ba? Pwede ka rin naman umorder nun ulit, pero pre, ang pag-ibig, hindi ganun e. Merong chance na makuha mo ulit , pero merong chance na hindi na. So in order for that na maayos natin, we have to verify kung tama ba talaga ang ating nararamdaman. Kasi once na pumasok tayo sa isang bagay na hindi tayo sure o masyadong naniniwala, wala ring kasiguraduhan ang kalalabasan ng bagay na yun.

Which is contradictory to “some things are best left with a little bit of uncertainty”, na I kept on speaking about on my formspring account. Pero you know what, this statement is only used so that we can cover up for the truth na alam na natin, pero ayaw lang natin I confirm, so we must be able to muster up our courage and convey our feelings effectively. Kailangan panindigan natin yung pinaniniwalaan natin, na in such a point that even things don’t go our way, our beliefs don’t get shaken. This is really important, dahil I would speak about my opinions and if my opinions clash with yours, then I hope na hindi tayo magpadala sa emotions mo.

So to start, we have to determine that path point kung saan ba nagsisimula itong love na ito. To us, it follows an irreversible path na kapag napuntahan na natin, e hindi natin kayang balikan. And base dun sa ating status message, there is a journey that it traverses bago ito maging “love” that we see today. It all starts in the mind. Yes, dun muna siya mag-uumpisa, it is when you think of these feelings na para sa iyo, bigla mo na lang naiisip. For example, magkaibigan kayo then you suddenly begin to think na you could take it to the higher level and you suddenly think of things like “Wow, she could be my girlfriend.”, something like that. And when it comes to that, you begin to feel flustered when she’s around, you begin to be careful with the words you say and then that’s it, you move on to the next stop over.

Four to five inches below the mind is the next stopover. Dito na magkakatalo and this probably is the best argument that I could give to all of you. It flourishes through our words. Kapag hindi na kaya iprocess ng utak mo, it goes across to the mouth wherein we convey our feelings. These feelings na nasasabi mo like “I need you” and “I love you” are first processed in your mind. Then masasabi mo na siya, not only to yourself, but to other people as well. Pwedeng sinabi mo sa bestfriend mo kung medyo nagdadalawang-isip ka, or kung medyo matapang ka, sinabi mo nang direkta. The thing is, before love grows, it is first thought of and said. Then saka mo lang makikita through the next stop over kung talagang totoo ang love na yon.

And of course, fourteen or thirteen inches below is the point of application. At eto na ang stopover na pinakaimportante sa lahat. The heart. It is nurtured by our heart. Dito mo na mararamdaman yung sakit kapag may kasama siyang iba, nagseselos ka kahit hindi kayo, at dito mo mararanasan na nakukumpleto ang araw mo kapag nagkikita kayo at nakakapagusap. Ang pinakainfluential part ng katawan na nagpapump ng dugo sa ating utak, at other organs ay dito na magsisimulang magtrabaho. Kaya kapag narito ka na sa stopover na ito, malamang mahihirapan ka na dahil umapaw na sa isip at salita mo yung nararamdaman mo, so eto na nga yun. In love ka na. At ang puso, siya na ang magme-maintain niyan.

And lastly, the final stop over, it goes down to our hands. Dahil hindi mo na mapigilan ang love, eto na, this is where it comes to, na you perform acts of love. Little sacrifices, big sacrifices, they are just the same. There is only one feeling that they want to convey. It is manifested by our acts. Which can really decide the fate of our love.

OMG. I never expected to write and think about this on just one status message.